Wednesday, 14 November 2007

A normal day...

Today has been a stressful day in the City, saw a lot of my colleagues go which was sad! They were called "downstairs" and that was that, never came back!
Bonuses will be affected this year after all the hard work you've put in and the stress you've had and handled during the last few months of the market turmoil! Well add to this that I am single, Algerian and a female!!....What? It does matter! Its stress factor upon stress factor…
No other news to report today…just that it’s bloody cold in London and it gets dark in less than an hour (note that it’s 15:45 now)
Still looking for the ideal man and still hopeful….are you out there?

Monday, 12 November 2007

30 and single!

So you’re an Algerian girl, from a good family (middle class or higher) note that our class is related more to money and education than to actual blood and nobility…
You decide to move to Europe to see what’s out there and broaden your horizons. You choose London, The America of Europe, land of opportunities and diversity, you feel free and powerful, capable and you can take on the world, so you embark on your studies, work or whatever it is you came here for, you travel, go dancing, dinning, you live your life, make friends and enjoy the City and what it has to offer.

You have a whale of time; you are queen of your castle, at the top of your game, financial independence, glorious social life, amazing opportunities, travel and discovery…and then one day you hit 30…and the one thought you never thought or hoped would come hits you ….Marriage!

You start looking for a partner, a boyfriend of suitabe age...
Let me tell you ladies…those men go for the 20 years od, the little minxes they can control and manipulate to what they think is the perfect wife, 20 years old who never know better than him and therefore will always look up to him, fear him and admire him… they do not go for girls like you and me…we’re deemed a threat, too independent to have husbands and we can never make a man happy because we will always undermine his authority and make him feel unworthy…the truth is I am emotionally exhausted and I only just turned 30, I have only just started to feel the emptiness of a partner and the need for a man in my life, searching will only lead me to Type 1 described above, Type 2 as I said already, it seems I am not good enough for…so what a girl to do??

It seems from my long analysis and 30 years of being Algerian, that Algerian men do not like challenges, they like the easy life, easy gain, the cultural norms and hypocrisy go hand in hand and has been indoctrinated in them since the appearance of their very first chest hair…we cannot change that, so the solution I have been advised, for us Algerian Ladies who want to be with a fellow Algerian man is to lower your standards, do not judge and accept whatever comes your way because you go over 30 and you’ve basically missed the boat and you’ll end up an old spinster, I resent this and refuse to lower my standards, I will be judgmental to my future husband or boyfriend’s manners and education and way of thinking and will not accept less than I deserve.

They say your body clock kicks in and your hormones change, you start to feel broody and nature takes it place, the urge for procreation is upon you, you find yourself seeking emotional support and a diffrent kind of stability, so you establish that you would like a man in your life, for a “serious” relationship…you establish your criteria, does he have to be Algerian, Muslim, Tall, dark or blonde (not ginger), intelligent, educated, rich, well mannered, sexy and has big hands (if you feel you fit the description, you can write to me)... You start searching, not actively but as it happens you’re a social butterfly and meet a lot of people, magnetic personality and charisma makes it easy for you to make contacts and network in different “classes” and groups…but you only meet men who are the complete opposite to your description!! Uneducated, not well spoken, not well mannered, not financially independent in fact will without a doubt be dependant on you, and they are attracted to you because they see you as the women with the drive who will make their life better, you’re the asset to have, you’re the mother to his children who in turn will succeed and grow up to be like their mother, you’re the trophy wife that all his friends will envy him for….that’s all well and good for him – he has hit the jackpot but what about me?  Where is my ideal man, my trophy potential husband, and the great man who’d be the father to my children and who’d make my life easier and better!

To follow….so watch this space

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